They/Them. Photographer & activist. North Carolina queer. Lemme know in my ask if I should tag something for you.
I feel like I’m getting a lot better at communicating my needs and feelings and asking for what I want
And idk I feel real good about that and about the wonderful people in my life
So like, this thing happens where older cishetero white men I encounter are condescending as fuck in ways that aren’t justified based on my demonstrated ability, and I can’t tell how much of it has to do with my age, perceived gender, or the fact that I read as queer and gender non-conforming or maybe the way I communicate?
And like, idk I feel like I’ve felt unresolved about that, and thought about it a lot when that kind of shit happens, and idk it’s like one of those things that’s hard to process because it’s like, I can’t pinpoint a particular thing causing it because it’s probably a lot of things causing it.
And I guess what I’m trying to say that for me, that’s why it’s important to be able to identify the experiences those men have had that have lead them to be condescending as fuck to me based on some combination of factors that effect their perception of me.
Those men have had experiences of privilege that make them feel like they are in a place to evaluate me and devalue what I have to say and my perspective. Because of their white cishetero adult manhood.
It reframes the situation to put the responsibility for those men’s actions on them, and off of the things about me that they have decided make what I have to say less valuable.
So idk I’m wary of people who seem to think shifting the conversation off of whiteness, manhood, cisness adulthood, and heterosexuality for fear of alienating people//”making” them feel defensive about their privileged identities.
And I also have to remember not to shift the conversation off of my own whiteness, and abled experience.
My current aesthetic is: comfy queer casually not wearing a bra hoping people think it’s for political reasons